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Crush Your Fear NOW – Fascinating Insights Into The Power Of Your Ideas

‘So how long have you been singing for’ I said. ‘Since I was three’ she replied.

Funny, I thought.  She just told me she only started recording in January.

‘So why did it take so long?’ I said. ‘Because I was scared‘ she replied.

Now I understood. She was scared.  I was scared to. We all are.

The Persecution

Why do we not sit on the things that will bring us joy?  It’s a question I’ve thought about for a long time. Why do only a small percentage of people actually chase that spark?

‘You’re either running away from pain, or running towards pleasure’ 

Ideas are a gift and a curse. They give is so much pleasure of what could be but so much pain when we don’t do it. It hurts.

It did for me. It hurt my heart. I had all these things to say yet I wasn’t sharing.

Tomorrow became my rallying call. Tomorrow I’ll sort out the blog. Tomorrow I’ll edit the videos. Tomorrow.  Tomorrow.  Tomorrow.

Tomorrow never came.

We are all sinners. We are committing the greatest sin against the world – with holding our ideas.  Our Art.

Because this is what changes lives.

Persecution To Execution

If you didn’t do it it’s your fault.

This ain’t the blame game – it’s the truth.

And once you know that you can change your reactions.

Years of negative thinking is difficult to overcome in a day – but we can start TODAY.

Practise the 2 minute ruleTake imperfect action.  Embrace the journey.

‘It’s much bigger than you or I…..’

When you see someone playing the game it’s amazing. Watching the singers that day showed me.

The joy the crowd feels. The fulfilment in the artist heart.  It’s what the game is all about.

Think of all the great musicians you admire. All the great products and services that you like.

Now imagine they never started playing. They never started creating.

The changing of one person’s day.  The changing of one life. The changing of millions. Gone.

If you’re struggling to execute I admire you. We are all in the process of growth. Getting better as individuals. Getting off the bench.

I just wanted to let you know that your work will touch one person. Your idea will effect one person’s life.  Whether that’s them being touched by your work, or by them just being inspired that you’re doing something. It will happen.

So if this inspires you to create today, great. If it inspires you to commit to making that idea a reality even better.

Because just by playing we’ve already won.

Because the power isn’t in the ideas – it’s in sharing them with the world

 

Peace!

Dubem Menakaya


4 Lessons X-Men Taught Me About Changing The World

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June 21st 1997.  Saturday.  9.00am. X-Men time!

Cartoons we’re my escape.  To imagine.  To dream.  I closed my eyes and ran around the house with my superpowers…..

As I’ve gotten older my dreams have changed.  Knocking rings out of people and turning Super Saiyan are not my main objectives!

Today I want to create my own lifestyle. I want to innovate and bring something new to the world. I want to control my future.

Alas some are still trying to level up!

Looking back, cartoons showed me how to do that.

There’s one that stands out above them all…..

A)   Controlling Your Powers

‘We have awesome powers, my X-Men. It is our birthright… And, perhaps, our burden. But, as Valerie Said, with that power comes responsibility – and also accountability.’ – Professor X

‘The greatest ability an entrepreneur can have is the ability to control there emotions’ – Pejman Ghadimi

Before a mutant became an X-Man, they struggled with their powers.  They come out at the worst times.

Rogue (whose power was taking other people’s powers) nearly killed a boy she kissed.  Storm was launching hurricanes all over the gaffe!  The inability to control their powers ruined their lives.

 

When Professor X invites them to the X-Mansion, his top priority is teaching them control their powers.

And that’s just like us. Our powers are our emotions. If we let our emotions control us – fear, sadness, depression, anger – we will never be happy.  We’ll never do the work.  And we’ll never allow the greatness in us to fully shine.

B) Having A Mentor

‘A new generation of mutants is emerging, that much is certain. They will be called freaks. Genetic monstrosities. [...] But they are emerging in the inner cities, in the suburbs, in the deserts and the jungles. 

And when they emerge, they will need teachers, people who can help them overcome their anger and show them how to use their strange gifts responsibly.’ – Professor X

“What is a teacher? I’ll tell you: it isn’t someone who teaches something, but someone who inspires the student to give of her best in order to discover what she already knows.” – Paulho Coelho

Every entrepreneur preaches the value of a mentor.  To learn from someone who has been down the path your on – there mistakes, there successes, there why.

The beauty of the internet is we now have many mentors – whether that’s listening to great podcasts such as School Of Greatness or reading blogs from those you respect and want to learn from.  It’s all there.

Of course, nothing can replace that one-on-one connection. So check out this great post by Ryan Holiday on finding one 

C ) Working With A Team Of Superheroes 

You, my friend, are a mutant – and I have a need of mutants — desperate need!  – Professor X

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.’ – Jim Rohn

Jim Rohn explains the law of averages

You are who you surround yourself with. And just as the X-Men surrounded themselves with other X-Men.

Likewise the great entrepreneur’s and creators hang around each other.

Now that don’t mean you should cut off everyone who doesn’t have the same ambitions as you. However the people you spend the MOST amount of time with – you should be on the same wavelength.

After all – there’s a reason the best players play on the same team!

Because by propelling each other forward we can ultimately fight together for something that’s greater.

D ) Fighting for a cause greater than yourself 

‘My name is Charles Xavier. I am a mutant. And once upon a time I had a dream… of a world where all Earth’s children, both mutant and baseline human, might live together in peace….’ – Professor X

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”Margaret Mead 

Whether it was fighting against Magneto and his crew, or fighting against human oppression, the X-Men always had a cause.

And that is what kept them together even when times got hard.

We as individuals must realise there is a cause greater than us. That playing the game is has a much wider impact.

The poem by Marianne Williamson (via Coach Carter) sums it up

‘Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate…but that we are powerful beyond measure’

It’s about being an example.  Standing up and taking control.  Showing others they can do the same.

Winning the inner battle.  Harnessing those powers

By you controlling your powers and changing your life – you can help others do the same.

And together we can fight the old system.  Show the next generation that it is possible to live the life of your dreams.

To do what you love and love what you do.

We’re all X-Men – once you make that choice to bring something new into this world you are a superhero!

Peace,

Dubem Menakaya


How To Be A Fan (And Why It’s The Key To Getting Your Own)

‘I started out like a fan

Writing like every other kid

Grew up to be the man Paying bills at my mother’s crib’ – Wiz Khalifa

Who do you admire?  Who do you follow?  Who’s art do you say ‘that’s my ish!’ to?

‘I never cried when Pac died, but I will probably when Hov [Jay-Z] does’ – Drake

That’s what Drake means. Not that Tupac wasn’t an inspiration to him – but Jay-Z was his raving fan artist.

How To Be A Better Fan

Start thinking about why there art is so powerful.  How does it make your life better?  What are the stories that connect?  What about it resonates with people?

I’m a raving fan of many. I read pretty much every James Altucher blog post.   Watch every Gary Vaynerchuk video.  Listen to every School of Greatness podcast

I study them – in my mind.  I’m still a fan.  Just changing the angle.

Gary V aka Living Legend in action (once you watch one you’ll be hooked!)

Here’s some good questions to ask of those you f*** with,

What qualities do they have that connect with people?

What subject matter/references do they use that gets a response?

How do they view the world?

Who do they look up to and admire?

What could I learn from them?

This helps you understand what connects.  It helps you develop your own style.  It helps you add value.

Being a fan is the first stage of Getting Off The Bench.

Because if you can’t respect someone else’s art, why would someone respect yours?

Peace,

Dubem Menakaya


The Number One Thing You Should Do Before/During/After You Start Chasing Your Dreams

‘If man has a why, he can bear almost any how’ – Friedrich Nietzche

I left the blog. Didn’t edit the interviews. Turned off my phone.

It’s always something small. Some small bullshit. But that stopped me from playing. And put me right back on the bench.

These little things eventually become big things (in our minds anyway).  And we lose our way.

We’re not match fit anymore.

Much of it is our own internal pressure. I wanted to be the best writer. I wanted to showcase these amazing interviews. But why?

Start With Why

I took a course to become a better writer.

There’s an exercise called ‘Start with Why’.

Basically you time yourself for three minutes and write down Why you want to do something.

So I did ‘Why Do I Want To Start Getting Off The Bench’ and wrote the following:

GOTB is to show that we can BE who we are and live our dreams  It’s to bring the REALNESS back to it – and show young people what it really takes

It’s so I can help and pass on my knowledge

It’s to UNITE us – instead of individuals being all over the place let’s come together

It’s to SHOWCASE – so we can tell these stories of young people killing it and how they did it

It’s to spark a REVOLUTION – let’s change the averageness that society places for us and not just AIM for the moon – actually build our rockets!

It’s so I can express myself – and really put my message into a book.

It’s also so I can do these things – so I’m not just talking about it I’M LIVING IT  

Because it’s FUN!

Clarity

‘Thank God for granting me this moment of clarity’ – Jay-Z

Writing the why cleared up the mess in my head. What I’m doing is beyond me – yet it’s all about me. If I cannot play the game, I can’t tell and show others to do the same. That was my clarity.

Beware!

Alas this is not a fairy-tale. I didn’t live happily ever after. There’s still much more to do. I had to build new habits. To train every day. To be grateful. To pray.

But this was the start.

I often look at it when I’m feeling fearful. When I don’t want to push publish. Or when an obstacle comes up.

So that’s what I’d like you to do. It will only take 3-5 minutes. Whether you’re playing or not. Time yourself and ask why are you doing/want to do whatever it is?

Because is man has a why, he can bear almost any how.

‘People don’t but WHAT you do – they buy WHY you do it’ – Simon Sinek

Peace

Dubem Menakaya

P.S Here’s an amazing Ted Talk by Simon Sinek to give you some inspiration


Why University Is Failing the Next Generation

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‘Special session for Graduates helping you understand your options after University’

Great, I thought, this should be interesting.  I wonder what options they are going to suggest.  Of course, graduate schemes and paid internships will be on the list.  What about entrepreneurship?  Starting your own business online?  Tips on how to shadow intern for someone you admire?

Of course there was none of that.  It was the same old same old.  This graduate scheme, this job in administration.  I wasn’t really disappointed though – it’s what I’d come to expect.

Returning to University I wasn’t expecting them to spoon feed me.  My previous experiences had shown me that I had to be in charge of my life – or external circumstances would take over.  I was still disappointed though in the lack of preparation University gives you for TODAY’S world.  University might be good for how it was 10 or 20 years ago, but it’s certainly not appropriate for today.

We were all there.  We all saw what happened.  2008 the whole world collapsed.  Economic and financial structures that had lasted for decades were brought to their knees.  University was a large part of that system.  You get a degree, you get a decent paying job (most of the time doing something you don’t like), you get a house and a lot of other debt and then you retire.  Simples.  Well no more.  Those jobs are gone and they’re not coming back.  Middle managers are being replaced by technology.  So are administrators.  Of course many jobs are vital and will never go, but even in those jobs there needs to be adjustment for the new economy.

Now you have to be creating.  An article, a video, a business, a sculpture or anything.  You have to be making something happen.  Everyone has a degree so how will you differentiate yourself?  How can a company even see your passion and what you’re about?  When you create you don’t even need to rely on getting a job.  If it comes great, if not then you can just spend time on creating.

I had to learn these things for myself.  From reading, learning and experiencing.  In my first year I just did the normal student thing.  Partied, played games, barely attended lectures and breezing through.  I was lucky that a Master’s student (Rodrigo) wanted to create something called an ‘Enterprise Society’.   I was always intrigued by entrepreneurship so I signed up.  We started the society and ran a fundraiser to make money to go to the National Student Enterprise conference in Manchester.  It was so fun.  We came up with this idea in a room and then there it was.  We made over £400.  Creation.  Art. Beautiful.

That is what the new economy is.  Creation and connection.  You have teenagers building apps and selling them for millions of pounds (dollars).  Why?  Because they created it and it connected and created value for people.  People talking to a camera and millions of people watching. Why?  Same reason.

University does not prepare you or teach you any of this.  None.  I was there so I can say that.  They’re still bogged down in the system of marks and essays.  Now coursework isn’t all bad but life is more than that.  I wrote around 20 pieces of coursework at University.  Couldn’t one of those projects been assigned to building a blog?  Solving a local community issue?

That’s not to give all the blame to the University.  Students have to be seeking as well.  The enterprise society was amazing for me (I took over in the second year) as I got a chance to create events and connect with people.  However the student attendance was sadly lacking.  Yes our marketing was a problem, but the apathy amongst most students was often depressing.

That’s why I say University is failing.  They are the one’s providing the environment.  They should be making students aware of the situation and what the world is really like.  That’s not an enterprise society’s job.

We live in a special time.  A 10 year old can learn what the University taught to me in 3 years in about 6 months and for near-zero cost!

So let’s look at it from a business perspective.  In the UK fees have risen from £3000 to £9000.  The quality of the service?  Flat-lined if not decreased.  So even if they don’t want to evolve because that’s the right thing to do,  the change will come to them and less students will go to University. They’ll realise they can learn everything (unless it’s really technical like a Doctor) outside of it.  So what’s it going to be?  The future of University’s and the next generation depends on the answer.


Sacrifce – Are You Willing To Risk It All?

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“Success is not measured by what you have its measured by what you had to sacrifice to get to where you are” – Immortal Technique (London Real Interview)

The Aztecs used to sacrifice human beings.  Many other civilisations did the same thing, such as the Mayans.  How could people kill other people so openly and with such regularity?  It  boggled the minds of the Spaniards who witnessed it.

Nelson  Mandela also sacrificed.  He sacrificed a potential job as a lawyer.  He sacrificed 27 years of his life.  Some of these sacrifices were voluntarily, some not.  However the way he dealt with both of them showed why those sacrifices didn’t matter to him.  The cause was much greater than the sacrifice.  The potential of what could be was greater than any downsides the sacrifice had.

 

Two different time periods, two completely different causes – but the same underlying message.  The belief in a purpose greater than yourself.  The belief that whatever you’re sacrificing is nowhere near as important as the end goal.  We know what Nelson Mandela was sacrificing for.  The Aztecs not so much.  Nonetheless the message is still the same.

Now let’s look at sacrifices closer to home.  Personally, I know my mum sacrificed a lot for me.  She sacrificed thousands of pounds to send me to a private school.  She sacrificed thousands more in potential earnings in jobs abroad so she could stay close to us.  She sacrificed time and energy she could have used to do other things.  It’s the same with most parents.  As a child/teenager these are you don’t understand.  Even now I don’t fully comprehend it (probably won’t until I have children of my own).

‘This is sacrifice, it’s givin’ your all.
Even when they don’t understand you, you still answer your calling’ – Lecrae – Sacrifice

Why do I mention all of these points?  Two reasons.  One – when I’m feeling things are getting tough or I think about the sacrifices that I have had to make to start I Am Limitless, for example, it pales in comparison.  Yeah I sacrificed a decent paying graduate job.  Maybe I could have been in a relationship.  I sacrificed playing PS3.  I sacrificed security and safety.  You can see how relatively insignificant this is in the big picture.

Now that’s not to belittle anyone or the sacrifices that you will have to make to achieve your dreams.  Everything is relative to the individual and I can never compare someone else’s sacrifices to my own (it’s not a competition!).  I just want to provide a little perspective.

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Secondly, and maybe most importantly, the WHY of the sacrifice is the most important.  Why would Nelson Mandela go to jail for 27 years and come out and not be bitter and resentful?  Why do parents sacrifice so much for their children?  Because they believe they have no choice.  It’s either that or it’s nothing.  The cause is too great to be denied.

And that is the kind of mindset you have to get to really be willing to make and accept those sacrifices.  That’s how I feel about I Am Limitless.  Hey other people may think I’m delusional.  I don’t care.  The cause has to matter to YOU.  YOU have to believe that it is so beneficial for people that to NOT do it would be the real crime.  It’s not easy to find a cause/purpose that will instill this belief in you.  But keep looking, keep training and when you do get out there you’ll know you have to keep pushing.  Not because you have to.  But because you have no choice.


The Butterfly Effect – The Power Of Pain And Why It’s So Important For Growth

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‘When a larvae is born it grows into a caterpillar, a cocoon & emerges as a butterfly. It had to grow & change to realize its destiny, to fly’ – Che Lingo

We all want to fly.  To spread our wings and show our colours – to live a life of passion and never ‘work again’.  A butterfly – flying in nature showcasing our colours and their talents for the world to see

Fuck it – that’s what I think anyway.  I want to be known for what I do.  I want people to be happy that I was here.  That I left them with something.  To amaze, to engage.  And that it enables me to be happy and make those around me happy.

I remember going to networking events and watching the public speakers.  Motivational speakers like Brad Burton and Tony Robbins.  People we’re on the edge of their seats.  Taking notes, smiling, dancing – the transformation was happening right there.

I knew that’s what I wanted to do.  To spread a message of endless possibilities – to say shit that matters and means something to people.  To bring something into this world

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‘Be the change you want to  see in the world

How could I help anyone when I couldn’t even help myself?  That was in 2011 and I’d just gone back to Uni.  I’d been ‘removed’ for failing first year.  I got depressed, smoked a lot of weed, watched a lot of Jeremy Kyle (they definitely go hand in hand!).

I’d got over that though.  I had the first glimpse of the vision.  Entrepreneurs.  The visionaries, the game changers.  Richard Branson, Mark Zuckerberg – I wanted to be those guys.

I was still caterpillar – but I had made that decision to change.

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‘The only decision that’s wrong is an INDECISION – Because an indecision keeps you paralyzed for life’ – Wilson Luna

 

That’s where it all starts.  With that decision that I WANT THIS.  I don’t want to settle for MEDIOCRE.  Fucking Uni man – a lot of its bullshit.  They want to put us into these boxes.

A friend of mine, Jeet Banerjee said it best – ‘A lot of University is designed to make us robots’

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The system is designed to make decisions FOR you.  But you’ll never be happy witha decision that’s not your OWN.

 

We’re the microwave generation – fast broadband, fast food, fast sex.  Everything is quick!  But that dream, that transformation – that is not quick.  I read books, I went to events.  I started blogs and gave up after a week.  I had ideas that would change the world one day (the face to face chat room where you can learn a new language is still gold!), then would get frustrated at all the shit I needed to learn, go smoke up and get depressed that I was still a caterpillar the next.

All the while I was growing without realizing.  After that decision and taking that action you’re learning all the time.  I learnt that I wasn’t the only one.  That this was a movement.  Young people not settling for that straight line path.  A whole generation chasing after that dream – some already there, most not – yet still going through the same struggles as me.  There was something there.

Without realising it, those events, those down times, going through the University system again – I’d been growing the whole time….

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‘Do I have angst, sure.  I’m 36 I’m getting older, I’m worried about the time.  Can I do what I said?  But I’m betting on patience, betting on getting better every year I get better – knowing that the 2006 version of me was punk compared to the 2012 version of me – because that’s the truth you keep getting better’ – Gary Vaynerchuk

This quote is from a video of entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk dropping some real personal bars on a plane.  I’ve listened to it countless times that’s the bit that always gets me.  He’s done so much – New York Times Bestsellers, Multi Millon Pound Business and hundreds of speaking Gigs – yet he knows he’s still growing.

I grew in that time period from 2011 to now.  I haven’t created that amazing business that changed the world and I haven’t rocked an audience with my amazing speeches.  But I grew.  I evolved.  I’m still a caterpillar but the wings are sprouting.

It will take time.  It took years for all the legends.  But if you ever doubt yourself, always bring it back to the mission – to the vision.  There’s nothing wrong with falling down and starting again. In fact, that’s the only way!

My wings will soon grow.  And yours will too.  Let’s fly together.  You can’t deny your heart.

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Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding’ – Kahlil Gibran


Regrets Part II – 4 Things You Can Do To Move Forward…..

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In Part I I explained some of the regrets I went through and how it affected me.  I was hurt.  I might not have shown it outwardly but inside it was eating me alive.

You can get through it though.  You can use that pain. Make it your leverage and turn those regrets into something wonderful.  You can make it the catalyst for the most impactful positive change in your life.

That’s what happened to me.  All those things that I went through ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me.  It helped me go on the path that I’m on today.

Now the change won’t happen overnight.  It’s a process.  It takes experiences to make you.  So here are my top 5 things you can do NOW to get over regrets and get through pain

Read

In this Youtube and Itunes era you would think the written word had been shunned.  In fact, just the opposite has happened.  More people are reading  than ever.  At the same time, some people never read at all.  It’s a shame because blogs, newspapers, magazines AND books are the gift of life.  The knowledge and the stories, they will help you see things from a different perspective.  For me it was reading entrepreneur biographies.  Duncan Bannatyne’s was my favourite because he had a tough life.  He never achieved anything until he was 33 and even labelled himself a ‘beach bum’.  Seeing where he got to showed me I could do it.  I also read about mental health, personal development, spiritual guidance.  Now I didn’t do everything those books said.  Surrounding myself witht hat knowledge though, it has a subconscious effect.  I’d recommend the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.  Start there and take the journey…..

Talk To Friends

It’s hard to open up about things that are gnawing at you.  You may value your friends but you may only talk about ‘surface issues’ – sport, music or what’s happening with your other friends.  To go on that deep level you have to have friends you trust.  Most importantly though, you have to actually TALK to them.  Open up.  Be vulnerable.  If there your true friends it won’t matter and it won’t change their opinion of you.  Most mental problems get worse because we ISOLATE ourselves.   ‘Nobody will understand’ ‘I have to do this by myself’ ‘What will people think of me’.  Yes I’ve said them all and I’m sure others have to.  Well it’s all bullshit.  Sorry to be so harsh but it’s true.  Opening up to my friends helped me so much they probably don’t even know.

Do Something You Loved As A Kid

Being a kid is one of the best things in the world.  I remember when I was young and all I wanted was to be older.  To be like my older brothers and have independence.  My mum always used to tell me ‘to appreciate these days because you’ll miss them.’  Well it’s not so much being an actual child I miss, it’s the freedom and the endless possibilities.  To be able to explore and do different activities.  To imagine (yes I had many imaginary friends!).  We lose that as we get older.  Rediscovering that though, will help you embrace your ‘inner child’.  I used to love reading and riding my bike.  We would put fizzy drink cans in between the wheel and the frame and pretend we we’re racing motorbikes.  It was fun and getting back on the bike and just exploring, it allowed me to forget, to see the bigger picture.  So try and find something you loved doing as a kid – give it a try and keep an open mind.  Keep doing it and you’ll realise your essence is still there – the other stuff is just covering it up.

Change Your Environment

When I was kicked out of Uni and the regrets engulfed me I spent a lot of time on the sofa.  Ate there.  Slept there.  Heck I would have pee’d there if I could!  Then my Grandmother died and my mum decided we we’re going back to Nigeria for the funeral.  As I wasn’t in school I had no choice.  Being in that environment gave me a whole new perspective.  It makes you feel incredibly ungrateful for the things that we do have.  People are struggling to eat and get electricity to stay on (blackouts are a major problem) yet I never even think of these things as a problem.  Now it’s not like that everywhere, but seeing these problems made me revaluate what I’m doing.  When I got back I couldn’t return to the couch.  I didn’t transform overnight but I knew I could never go back.

 

These are just four things you can do that will really enlighten you and help you see the bright light ahead of you.  There are other things like volunteering and practical things like exercise but there was so much I couldn’t fit it in.  Try all of them though.  Find what works for you and keep at it.  And remember, after every dark night, there’s a bright day – it’s up to you to open your eyes.


The Power Of An Open Mind

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‘When I was young, I read a lot, I wrote poetry – I would have been a totally different person had I not been exposed to those things’ – Tupac Shakur

When we’re young, we have a freedom of imagination and expression that we don’t appreciate. I think about those times and realise how that was when I was most free. I could read what I wanted, watch what I wanted and be free to dream and think of ideas that eventually my surroundings would make me embarrassed about.

Why is it that certain things like reading, museums and art are seen as ‘boring’ and ‘lame’? Where does the peer pressure come from that makes kids (and even adults) have a close mind?

As I looked at some of the famous artists of our time, I saw that they we’re all influenced by something outside of their normal field. Tupac wrote poetry and went to an arts school where he participated in ballet classes. Steve Jobs spent 18 months studying calligraphy (a way of writing and design).

Knowing the impact they went on to have, shouldn’t we then look to do things that take us outside our comfort zone? Things that don’t naturally line up with what our friends do or what is the ‘norm’?

I remember I used to listen to a lot of soft rock when I was a teenager (Billy Joel, Elton John the classics!). Now, I still listened to my bread and butter, hip-hop, but the soft rock gave me a different appreciation for music. The same with the old motown records. You understand culture. Gain a greater appreciation for art. How everything is different – yet has so many similarities

Most importantly, stepping outside your comfort zone gives you a whole new perspective. You can then bring this to whatever you’re doing. Our creations, our art, our life’s are all dictated by our experiences. What we read, watch, listen to and learn. It all affects what we end up doing. As Steve Jobs put it:

“When we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it’s likely that no personal computer would have them.”

So without him taking that class he would have never the Mac.  Apple’s speciality – its design’ wouldn’t exist. Without Tupac being exposed to that arts environment, he would have never have wrote the music that was so passionate, combined with the story telling, that made him so unique.

So this is to say don’t be embarrassed to do other things that may seem ‘wack’ or ‘gay’. To be extraordinary you have to move out of the ordinary. You can’t judge things that you haven’t experienced. This is what will impact you and make you unique.

So this year try something out of the ordinary – mix with people who you wouldn’t normally talk to, heck go see the ballet if you can! You never know how it will manifest itself in the future…..

‘I would rather have a mind opened by wonder, than closed by belief’ – Gerry Spence


Interview – YouthPhoria Magazine UK (Video)

Here is an interview I did with YouthPhoria Magazine.  I give some more details about GOTB, what our goals are and a couple of insights from my experiences.   I really enjoyed the process (even being very nervous) and the video came out really well!


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